How to ask a guy if hes bisexual
Re: I think my boyfriend/girlfriend is bisexual
Unread postby Sam W »
Hi dark_sunshine,
Can I ask how you know he's operational towards telling you he's bi? For instance, has he talked about questioning his orientation or seemed to ask a lot of questions about your views on things enjoy bisexuality?
When you say you feel enjoy a "second," it sounds like part of what's going on is that you're assuming he really wants to be with a boy, but feels like being with a girl is safer and so he's dating you. That's actually common feeling people have around bisexuality; the assumption that there's one gender a bi person would prefer to be with, and that if they're not with a person of that gender they're just biding their time until they can jump ship. But that's not how bisexuality works. If your companion is with you, it makes sense to depend on that you're who he wants to be with, not that he's secretly wishing he was with someone else (and if you feel like that isn't something you can trust, then that's a sign there may be a deeper issue in the relationship).
With that discomfort imagining h
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