Why do i feel gay when im not
by Fred Penzel, PhD
This article was initially published in the Winter edition of the OCD Newsletter.
OCD, as we know, is largely about experiencing severe and unrelenting doubt. It can cause you to doubt even the most basic things about yourself – even your sexual orientation. A study published in the Journal of Sex Research found that among a group of college students, 84% reported the occurrence of sexual intrusive thoughts (Byers, et al. ). In command to have doubts about one’s sexual identity, a sufferer depend on not ever have had a homo- or heterosexual experience, or any type of sexual encounter at all. I have observed this symptom in young children, adolescents, and adults as well. Interestingly Swedo, et al., , create that approximately 4% of children with OCD experience obsessions concerned with forbidden aggressive or perverse sexual thoughts.
Although doubts about one’s own sexual identity might look pretty straightforward as a symptom, there are actually a number of variations. The most apparent form is where a sufferer experiences the thought that they mig
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5 Tips to Overcome Your Loneliness as a Same-sex attracted Man
Updated April 18,
by Clinton Power, psychotherapist and Gay Therapy Center guest blogger
Unfortunately, struggling with feelings of loneliness and isolation is common in the gay community despite the focus on love and relationships. Sometimes you might struggle with making connections at all, and other times you may notice “alone in a crowded room” because it’s so hard to forge authentic connections.
Let’s explore how you can constructively deal with feelings of loneliness and share a life you’re excited to live!
Why perform gay men get lonely?
Loneliness is, in some ways, part of the male lover experience. The prevalence of loneliness was significantly higher among adults who identified as gay (%). Since everyone is assumed to be heterosexual, we all start out in the closet. The stress of not being out is emotional more than rational, but it takes its toll. Even before you came out to yourself, on some level you might have known you couldn’t fulfill expectations of a heterosexual life. You may have grown up feeling different and separated fro