Gay straight friendships
By Karen Blair, Ph.D., and Trent University Students Laura Orchard and Bre O'Handley
“We fell into each other’s arms because of our similarities in our career and because of our age and because we love the same sort of things.” This quote could quite likely be the beginning of a wonderful romance story, but instead, it is a quote about friendship delivered toThe Huffington Post by Sir Ian McKellen about his decade’s long friendship with Sir Patrick Stewart.
The two men first came to know each other well on the set of the first X-Men clip in , and although the duo played adversaries on the silver screen, offscreen, they were developing a finalize friendship. On the set, the two men had adjoining trailers, where they spent more second getting to recognize each other than in front of the camera. By the end of filming, they had discovered how much they had in common, and to this day, they share one of Hollywood’s most well-known friendships.
Both actors are often photographed together doing mundane things, such as walking a boardwalk while deep in conversation. Perhaps one of the reaso
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I have a similar situation with my partnership. My boyfriends gay confidant is inLove with him and he doesn&#;t understand that. there is so many things that form me realize that.
1 they see each other once a week to sip in a bar, when they do and find drunk, my boyfriends homosexual friend starts complementing him in front of me , like his handsome, touching his arm ( in a way that makes me uncomfortable), looking him with this in love eyes. start making inappropriate joke
2 he had a picture of a naked guy that looks like my boyfriend and even he shows the pictures to everybody. and he start saying DOESNT HE LOOK LIKE HIM???
3 he told my lover that he heard that i was dating one of his friends a couple of times( guy that I don&#;t even know). obviously lies.. don&#;t know what was exactly his intention.
4 he invited my boyfriend first to an island and a week after he mentioned and then he invited me .. ( last minute) obiously my lover didn&#;t
I walked through the crowd at DC’s Capital Pride on June 8 as groups were lining up to set off on the Pride parade. Walking down a crowded side street, I saw one of the loveliest men in town, a vertical ally. He greeted me warmly, hugged me, and kissed me on the cheek. I mind happily, how times have changed!
Despite the risk we now encounter of legal setbacks from a right-wing Supreme Court, the greater social and cultural acceptance Queer people have won is largely beyond the reach of politicians and judges. Changed expectations are hard to erase.
Generational change is not the same everywhere. Cities attract people who take diversity more in stride. Urban/rural divides open us to wedge politics. We have more work to do to help people spot that differences are not a threat.
Something I have experienced more frequently in recent years is straight men who enjoy the company of gay men, and even flirt with them. They are not interested sexually, but neither are they threatened in any way. I find it refreshing.
I have had straight neighbors like that. One was a mix of Anglo and Asia
I recently finished reading Dr. Robert Garfield’s terrific fresh book, Breaking the Male Code: Unlocking the Dominance of Friendship, and last week participated in a joint interview with him by Dr. Dan Gottlieb on WHYY (National Widespread Radio) in Philadelphia. This all got me thinking about my own friendships and those of my gay male clients. The bonds between gay men and straight women include been written about and featured in popular media (i.e. Sex in the City, Will and Grace), though a lot less has been said about how gay and unbent men recognize and negotiate the distinct challenges, complications, and rewards of their friendships.
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According to Garfield, among the many obstacles to male-male platonic love , fear of homosexuality looms large. Straight men fret that if they find too close, others will see them as gay; which in their minds means feminine (horrors!), flimsy, and perverted. Perhaps even scarier is that their emotional connections will somehow morph into sexual attraction. Interestingly, in the U.S., before there was such a thing as a gay identit